How does one succeed in life?
Last Updated: 16.06.2025 11:48
PICK 1 important thing you want to quit or bring into your life in 2025. Think hard about a system that will make it impossible or inevitable.
Most people think their 2.0 version will magically manifest and find it easier to do hard things.
Big dreamer but only in his mind.
Why do people love to live alone in a house?
An average man, let's call him Sam’i (that’s my name):
Ask yourself:
Living to your full potential is a goal.
Example 4: Maybe you want to quit porn for 30 days.
Keep in mind that, there is always a system for any problem. You just need to be willing to think hard enough and BE WILLING TO MAKE SACRIFICES.
Example 2: Maybe you want to lose weight.
How rough can the ferry passage from Hull to Rotterdam be in the autumn ( at the end of October )?
Attending 1 specific event every week is a system. Friends will naturally come to you.
Hangs out with loser friends.
Hates going to the gym, eating healthy, or even doing laundry.
I never raise problems without solutions. So, what to do?
Final example: Maybe you want to be a better version of yourself in 2025.
Quitting porn for 30 days is a goal.
The money you’ve invested, the tailored plan, and the accountability of the coach make it almost impossible not to succeed.
Having a process that automatically transfers money to your savings account each month is a system.
Losers and winners have the same goals. The difference is their systems.
Porn blockers might help, but they won’t be as effective. And you know nudity isn’t just on Pornhub—it’s everywhere. Don’t joke with fire.
Cutting off WiFi at home for a month or giving your phone to a distant friend for a month (in exchange for a Nokia or simply nothing) is a system.
Avoids sugar and is very fit.
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Example 3: Maybe you want to make more friends.
If you don’t change now, expect tomorrow to be almost exactly the same—or worse.
Example 1: Let’s say you make a monthly income, and you want to save $10,000.
Similarly, "YOU 2.0" trusts you to make decisions for him.
In 5 years, YOU will still be the one making decisions. And if you keep your current habits, "YOU 2.0" will have big problems.
Paying a coach with a detailed plan is a system.
What is one fantasy you have never told anyone about but really want to do?
“YOU 2.0” is like your future kid. It’s your duty to make decisions for him. It is wiser to marry a nice mom for your kid, not just a beautiful wife for yourself.
How can I make it impossible to fall into a specific bad habit (you want to quit)?
Saving $10,000 is a goal.
What's your wildest & weirdest fantasy?
Self-disciplined (controls his d*ck, no Netflix, no smoking, etc.).
Opens a business and makes WiFi money.
Losing 20kg is a goal.
However, he firmly believes that one day, he will (like by a miracle) be that new, dope version of himself, Sam’i 2.0:
Does not procrastinate.
The truth is: Future YOU is simply YOU, but older and more tired.
Making more friends is a goal.
Like Sam’i, 99% of men treat their future selves like strangers—completely different from who they are right now.
Has a beautiful wife, cars, etc.
Procrastinates a lot.
How can I make the good habit (you want to start) inevitable?
Can’t control his impulses (women, porn, masturbation, smoking, Netflix, anger, etc.).
Scrolls too much TikTok/YouTube Shorts.
That's it for today.
Do not set goals—set systems.
Buying, a book like Live Intentionally or any other practical self-improvement guide is a system.
First, understand that, effective "change" should be 80% systems and only 20% willpower—not the other way around. Do not joke with that.
What I need from you?